In recent weeks I have been working on issues related to the couple and how stress, silently, begins to absorb the life of each and one, first as something isolated, which is then assimilated, thinking that it will be eventual, but it begins a loop that repeats itself and is silently accepted, sometimes calling it by name, other exacerbating it but ultimately producing unwanted effects such as: discomfort, resentment, misunderstanding and other forms of behavior and low-vibration emotions that end up affecting the relationship between the couple and at the individual level physical, mental and emotional health.

Conflict issues are innumerable, but here I will highlight the most common ones, such as: "lack of understanding"; "Indifference"; "Economic problems"; "Jealousy"; "The habits that the couple brings and wants to change their pair"; "The children"; “Household chores”, each with its own cultural, generational and social variants, but in the end generating conflicts that cause discomfort to the couple and in extreme cases reaching femicide and / or feminicide.

Today I want to stop to share how cultural values affect the couple relationship and that what is defined as a "problem" in most cases are the preconceived concepts that we inherit about gender roles where men and women are stereotyped and we are learning and unlearning in our journey, whether consciously or unconsciously, transforming them into our cultural base and personality.

Before it was said: "if you want to know what your wife will be like ... know what her mother is like", true or false? What is decisive is how the nucleus of the family is formed from which each man and woman who wishes to build a relationship comes from…. Home…. A family.

If he comes from an abusive family, the person has a high percentage of becoming abusive or abusive, likewise, if he comes from a violent family, he has a high probability of being violent with his partner. The good news is that this is not something mathematically exact like 1 + 1 = 2. Why? Well, because there are other variables in the development of the human and human being that will determine the values with which it will also be built and its relationship. Many times the survivors of this type of situation learn new forms of relationships so as not to repeat what they experienced.

Today more than ever, access to information is massive, direct, there are testimonies of the lives of survivors of complicated relationships who work to build based on love and respect.

Aspects as simple as sharing domestic chores at home for both couples has been a practice that helps to strengthen the relationship and gender equity, creating a good atmosphere at home and giving a good example of life to their sons and daughters. .

The joint care of sons and daughters, when they exist, is fundamental, since it is a mutual responsibility and not exclusively of the woman. Now the classic role of the economic provider man becomes the role of the integral provider, such beautiful phrases that I have heard from men such as: “we are pregnant” moves me because it shows that society is advancing, despite….

This reflection is an invitation for those who are interested and interested in building their relationship with renewed, clean, pure foundations to investigate, consult, talk to know each other enough before taking more important steps in their lives.

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