It is “common” to hear fathers, mothers, wives, husbands, grandparents, grandmothers, even sons and daughters, expressions such as the following: “there are only problems at home” or “my house is hell” or “I can't stand being there anymore. at home ”exclaimed or felt when situations arise that exceed their capacity for response or understanding.

At the current juncture of coronavirus, probably the causes of these expressions are still valid and now a new stressor element is added: the COVID-19, whose prevention measures issued by the who indicate social, behavioral and relationship changes such as: social distancing,  stay at home and leaving only for the essential, working from home _for the lucky ones_ or becoming unemployed due to the characteristics of the company or employer, in order to ensure one's own health and that of the environment.

With this new scenario, what happens now with the members of the family, where its members prolong their stay and coexistence in the same place that they consider a problem or hell? for you father, mother, wife, husband and anyone who occupies these responsibilities I share this reflection.

The home is the sum of its members who together build emotionally, spiritually, socially and physically a place of protection, rest and energization, of happiness and teaching of good life practices, making resilience of the internal or external factors that influence , trial and error.

In this time of tribulation the width of the vision tends to be reduced and to concentrate only on what is disturbing and demotivating, leading to depressive feelings that affect the physical body; Thoughts connect in difficulties and become repetitive, damaging the mind and emotions, and actions and reactions combine between fear and uncertainty, affecting oneself and the environment. All of this is concentrated in a physical and emotional space called HOME, multiplied by three, by four, by seven or more members that make up the family.

What to do in front of this panorama?

To call each thing by its own name and since everything is energy, use it wisely, without going into denial of reality, but managing what may cause harm or discomfort. Making resilience and believing in that superior, universal, spiritual power that on Earth has different names but that is the ONLY POWER.

At home there are no problems, there are challenges, tasks to do, sick people to take care of, grandparents to take care of, abuses to correct, relationships to improve. There may be a lack of communication, understanding, respect and understanding, by being clear about what is lacking or exceeding, it is addressed according to the capacities of the interested parties. Assuming responsibilities and not guilt, the latter slows down change.

The house is not the home, it is part of it. You can have the most luxurious house, locate yourself in the most sought-after residential areas or be in social housing, neighborhoods, neighborhoods or in a settlement, but your home will be what you build with the pillars of love, security, protection, nature and supply. Surround yourself with plants, colors, music, conversation space and amenities, even if the areas are small or the same. If you have a house with one or two rooms, transform the spaces, move the furniture and what at night is the bedroom in the day that is a room to watch TV, if you have a patio, take care of your plants, enjoy the afternoons in the cool , sow more obviously prioritizing water for your consumption, cleaning and cleaning. Privacy and solitude is another way to enjoy home, respect for those who want it. Without exceeding this because it is already another behavior.

When you have a family, the home is not you, it is made up of each of the people who live in it and each one represents a role, a function. Parents have a valuable role from their position of power teaching by example, love, understanding, discipline, strength and the concept of home and family. Today more than ever the need for affection and understanding are required in the face of uncertainty and fear. The children need accompaniment, they can play change of roles for a day, an afternoon, observe what the children reflect about you in this game.

Home will be the hell or paradise that you decide, you resolve to make it a haven of peace and well-being in your life and that of your family or continue doing more of the same. The time is now not later. It is the small actions that produce the big changes.

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